Sensual Interaction Guidelines
Sheri, The Queen of Safer Sex and Condom Fairy Says,
“JUST BECAUSE IT’S SEXY & SACRED, DOESN’T MAKE IT SAFE!”
1. Check in with yourself before engaging in sensual and sexual activities. Be honest and take as much time as you need to be clear about what you want to do or not do.
2. Communicate with potential partners. Be honest, clear and overt. Don’t assume permission, ASK!
3. Make agreements about boundaries and then honor them.
4. Honor prior agreements with others. Tell the complete truth about your agreements.
5. Discuss expectations, intentions and commitments before engaging in behaviors.
6. If you’re all in agreement, have a Pre-Sex Talk. If you can’t talk about it, don’t do it. Remember, sex makes you stupid, so be smart and have this conversation before you’re highly aroused. Tell the complete truth!
A Pre-Sex Talk Includes:
a. Who are you currently being sexual and/or intimate with?
Discuss current partner status and agreements.
b. History of sexually transmitted diseases
c. Testing history including HIV, as well as other STDs.
d. What intimate sensual or sexual activities will you engage in together, now?
What are your boundaries?
e. What Safer Sex practices will you use?
f. Contraception, if applicable.
g. Anything Else?
7. Consider playing in the safer realm of sensual activities. There’s a lot of fun to be had without contact of your genitals and the surrounding skin, or sharing sexual fluids and the accompanying risks of disease. You can still have a great and erotic time.
8. Be responsible and respectful to yourself and to others.
9. Play nice.
10. It’s better to be careful then sorry!